As kids growing up, there was always groups of friends. There was the popular crowd, the smart kids, the nerdy kids… the list goes on and on but you get the idea. There were different groups who stayed together and that’s just how it was, and still is, today. But what about when you’re an adult? People get busy with jobs, getting married, raising their families…and before you know it, years have gone by. Time that you used to spend with your friends just slowly gets limited to less and less time overall. Lately all of my friends have been on my mind, and I’m truly thankful that I have a handful of great friends that I just love.
I remember once about 8 years ago, I didn’t want to go out with my husband and our friends because I was just too tired. At the time, my oldest son was still just a baby, and I just didn’t feel like giving up sleep to go out. I remember my husband was annoyed that I didn’t want to go, and he said “You never go out anymore. In 5 years no one will remember your name.” At the time that remark made me feel pretty bad. But the good news is, that’s a bunch of bull sh*t. You don’t have to spend every waking moment with friends to have them remember you, and be an important part of your life. There’s some people that you can stay friends with for a lifetime, and others that you meet as an adult and quickly become a lifelong friend too.
For many years, I kind of neglected my friends. Not on purpose, but I got so consumed with my kids, and keeping up with life that at the end of the day, there was just no time for even myself, let alone my friends (I was so tired, I even neglected my music, and didn’t write a song in 12 years!) But eventually we talked again, and it’s like I was never gone.
My husband and I also are fortunate enough to have a friend that we only met about 2 years ago, but he has helped us along the way with so many different things we had going on (If you’re reading this, you know who you are-thank you!)
But all of my friends mean the world to me. I know I don’t say it enough, but here’s 20 reasons why-
1. Friends listen to your ideas.
2. They don’t judge you.
3. Friends support your dreams.
4. Friends give you strength and courage to face another day.
5. They listen to you complain about your spouse.
6. Friends make sure you stay out of trouble.
7. They make you laugh.
8. They make you feel alive.
9. Friends help you when you’ve lost your way.
10. They never let you down.
11. You can go months or even years without talking to your best friend, but pick up right where you left off once you do.
12. Friends protect you and make you feel safe.
13. Friends make you feel like you’re a worthwhile person.
14. Friends don’t throw your insecurities in your face
15. A true friend does not judge you. Ever.
16. A friend makes the world just a little bit better.
“IT IS ONE OF THE BLESSINGS OF OLD FRIENDS THAT YOU CAN AFFORD TO BE STUPID WITH THEM.”- RALPH WALDO EMERSON
17. True friends never let you cry alone.
18. Friends believe in you.
19. Friends don’t let you drive drunk (had to say that. Sorry)
20. Friends don’t betray you.
What about your friends? You don’t have to have tons of friends but even just one or two close people that you can talk to. They just make the world a little better, don’t they? When’s the last time you spoke to them? Call them! Make plans to see them! Even if it’s a pain to find a babysitter, just once in a while, make time for your friends. I think they play a bigger role in your life than you realize. After spending time with them, you walk away happier and feel better equipped to face the world. So to all my friends out there…Thank you!
How often do you see your best friends?